Being Diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome as an adult
- Mauri1212
- Mauri1212
- LaurelLee
- truetruetruetrue
- gypsymuse
- gypsymuse
- StFrancis5114
- myASson
- CarolB50
- IknowanAspie
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» Mauri1212 - Help! Need tips on documenting childhood symptoms
I have the opportunity to get funding for therapy--if I have the Autistic/Asperger dx. Being 47yo it is difficult to document my early years. My family is no help--"I can't think of anything." (Nevermind that I've always been an embarrassment to my sister and parents.) "We are all odd in someway." Polite rubbish. (On the other hand, "we" ARE an odd, dysfunctional family, so it is possible...)I didn't have the flapping/rocking so typical of Autism. SOME spinning and I did like to spin the younger kids around. Played with younger kids better than my age. Few friends. I know I was considered odd...but I never knew what it was. (wasn't odd to me!!!)
Just quiet and bookish...grades were so-so. Comments were that I could do the work... Got the impression that I was considered lazy/unmotivated/didn't care, etc. Of course I did care, desperately, but what to do about it??? Hide of course.
Any thought???
P.S. Had a job interview today and may have blown it when asked how I got along with people. I said I wasn't a people person but I got along with people OK. (My husband thinks I obviously self-sabotaged. My response was: the level of responsibility was kind of scary, AND I did not want to get myself into something they and I would regret. Did not know any other answer.)
-- posted by Mauri1212
» Mauri1212 - Re: Help! Need tips on documenting childhood symptoms
In response to Help! Need tips on documenting childhood symptoms posted by Mauri1212:Found therapist/made appointment.
Still interested in how others handle this part of the diagnostic procedure.
-- posted by Mauri1212
» LaurelLee - Re: Re: Help! Need tips on documenting childhood symptoms
In response to Re: Help! Need tips on documenting childhood symptoms posted by Mauri1212:My husband is 41 and we recently separated due mainly to his rages. After talking to a friend whose son (and likely also her ex) have AS I think I may have finally found the source of his/our problems. He lined up his toys as a child, was/is extremely sensitive to smells, practiced his flute for hours in a closet, and from a very young age had temper tantrums during which it was impossible to reason with him. He has said he has always had a problem with affection or relating to others and has always blamed this on being orphaned. Now I'm not so sure that's all. My friend advised me to watch my son for symptoms and I found a site that said even babies display signs, such as crawling with one leg out, lying to one side, having difficulty rolling over (all these my son has) and also may sit late or walk awkwardly). Was this apparent for you? As for my husband, he was adopted from Korea at age 7, so I have no clue about his early childhood. Please share anything about diagnosing in adults. Especially I am interested in anything that relates how some with AS act out (rage) rather than withdraw. I am hoping that somehow we can get back together as a healthy family.
-- posted by LaurelLee
» truetruetruetrue - Re: Response To Blue Child
In response to Response To Blue Child posted by ajmm:sup dude lay off the pot a little sweetttttttttttttttttttttttttttt
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» gypsymuse - How to receive a proper diagnosis for AS in Adults
I wanted to know if anyone had any idea how I can go about getting diagnosed for AS. I am an adult female who has a son who is tentatively diagnosed AS, and now I look back at my lineage and I see my father and I had the same similarities and peculiarities that my son portrays. Incidentally, I have self diagnosed myself, however, I wish to find sources in my area that are inexpensive (since we are in a budget) or can be state funded. I live in the Kansas city, MO area and if anyone knows of anything out in this metro area, please inform me. Otherwise, if you know what sources I may look into to find available help through state funding please let me know.Thank you, M.
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» gypsymuse - How to receive a proper diagnosis for AS in Adults
I wanted to know if anyone had any idea how I can go about getting diagnosed for AS. I am an adult female who has a son who is tentatively diagnosed AS, and now I look back at my lineage and I see my father and I had the same similarities and peculiarities that my son portrays. Incidentally, I have self diagnosed myself, however, I wish to find sources in my area that are inexpensive (since we are in a budget) or can be state funded. I live in the Kansas city, MO area and if anyone knows of anything out in this metro area, please inform me. Otherwise, if you know what sources I may look into to find available help through state funding please let me know.Thank you, M.
-- posted by gypsymuse
» StFrancis5114 - Re: How to receive a proper diagnosis for AS in Adults
Greetings:Be prepared for a paradoxical challenge to be both the patient and your own best advocate. Medical types do not know how to deal with that easily. Start with your county mental health association and look for free clinic of any type.
My Asperistic journey stated at age 50 and I recently got a CAT scan free because I have a slight paralyis. It is important to get coaching as a specific growth technique because there is nothing really that anyone can do outside of that. google out to Asperger's myths, a helpful site.
PS Aspergers as an adult is scary, but, with new friends and a sense of humor it has a blessing too
Blessings from Madison Wisconsin stfrancisdesign@yahoo
-- posted by StFrancis5114
» myASson - Re: Re: to be or not to be Dx'd..that IS the question
In response to Re: to be or not to be Dx'd..that IS the question posted by nglenn777:My son has been diagnosed with AS for years. He is now 17 and he will be transitioning to adulthood in 7 months. I am trying to find resources in Eugene Oregon for him for his adult transition. I believe that my son need some level of residential treatment. He will not eat or take his meds if he is not reminded and this is a big concern for me if he is on his own.
My son has been going to a residential school in California throughout his high school years because he was kicked out of school for violent behavior. He was at a point where I feared for my life and couldnt handle him at home. Sending him to a residential school was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I feel that had he not gone to an intensive program my son might have ended up in jail or hurt someone.
But on a good note, my son is doing much better. He is not in jail and he will graduate. So I am happy and proud of him. My son comes home to visit on the weekends and holidays and I have very close integration with the school he goes to. I actually think we are closer because we talk instead of stress so much.
I am looking for input from people who have had good results with certain programs. I would love to allow my son to live at home but is that really the best thing for him. I want him to learn to be as independant as possible. I don't feel living at home gives him that.
I want to allow my son to have the best chance to live to his fullest potential. A job, a place of his own and all of the joys of being independant.
Please if you or anyone you know has had success with transition programs please let me know which ones. If you have had bad experiences I want to know about that also. Please regardless of the state please help me help him.
Thanks,
A Proud Mom
-- posted by myASson
» CarolB50 - Re: An Asperger's Adult
In response to An Asperger's Adult posted by bluechild:Dear Bluechild. I'm from GR too, and believe my husband (age 57) has AS. I've become very discouraged after researching the subject and have not found any resources in the area. I am desperate for help. Will you give me the name & phone number of your counselor? Many thanks.
CarolB50
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» IknowanAspie - Re: Response to Recola /Being diagnosed aspie as an adult
In response to Re: Response to Recola /Being diagnosed aspie as an adult posted by Recola:I have just left my aspie girlfriend as i could not tolerate the following.
cold, uncaring, lacking empathy, compassion.
she was also raped at 13yo by her step father and had a child to him. she lies so much i cant believe anything she tells me. so i dont know whether she was raped or i am beginning to now believe that she had an affair with him.
she will never approach me to kiss or cuddle me, it just dosent enter her mind. i was hurt physically recently and she just carried on a conversation with bystanders about trivial stuff while i was bleeding and fainting. they just cant show compassion or empathy.
she never says 'im sorry', its just not in her to think to say it. she never says 'thank you' as the same again.
i could never trust that she was telling the truth as i caught her lieing on so many occasions.
i often thought it was in her breeding, but her brothers said those things, but not her. i have identified the same behaviour in her youngest son and funny enough they also both have crohn's disease.
she dresses very sexually/provoctively and adorns herself with many finger rings, ear rings, tatoos and body piercings. she is very sexually provocative and has had at the age of 42, 8 live in relationships and 2 marriages with men and countless affairs.
her aspie behaviours and after having discovered her past secrets just made me pack and run from her.
i could never have a constructive conversation nor discuss issues that were worrying me with her. i also see her as having narcisstic personality disorder. ie. self loving, grandoise ideas pertaining to herself.
she treats important things in my life as non existant and small things in her life as important.
anyway, for my own sanity i just got away from her as fast as i could.
3 days later i found by checking to see if she was OK that she had found another man out of the newspaper adverts and had in fact had moved in with him, furniture and all and was living with him as man and wife.
thank god i am away from all of that.
i would like to know if this is an isolated case of Aspie or are others the same.
-- posted by IknowanAspie
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