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I just want to say that I really did love the article you have written. Maybe you can help me a bit more. I would appreciate it if everyone would respond even if it is personally emailed to me.

Thanks,

Well, I am a divorced mom of 2 boys (5 and 3) and my soon to be fiance' is divorced of 2 girls (9 and 6).

We have been together for over a yr. now and things have been pretty good. Kids are going to be kids. Right? Then one day out of the blue, one child all of a sudden hates me. Then we get things worked out and the other one hates me. I know the girls' mom doesn't like me at all. But hey, what can I say??

I have tried to even get along with her. I went to school with her.

The oldest child and I get along very well now. But for some odd reason, the youngest one despises me. I haven't done anything to her wrong except make her mind. I refuse to buy her love and she expects me to purchase her things every-time I get paid or her dad does.

He even told me not to buy their love. My boys live with us and the oldest one has a stubborn streak at times. But they both really respect the soon-to-be step dad in their lives. They love him very much. They tell him and I both this. Plus, Their daddy is very active at times in their lives also.

When the girls dad took them to the store, the youngest one begged to come see me at work.
Her daddy told her, Why should I take you if you don't like her? She says because. It really breaks my heart because we used to get along and she says things that hurt me. She knows I am not ugly to her. She knows I love her cause I tell her. If I hug her, she pushes me away. She refuses to have anything to do with me. I don't understand.

I am basically to the point where I dont' want anything to do with her. The mom brings guys in and out of the house all the time. She goes through them like we go through groceries. I just dont' think it is very good to have people in and out of your kids lives. It hurts them and yourself too. How does it look? Not good.

Please, I am begging for answers from anyone to help me.

I am 27 and I love this man with all my heart. The mom is out for money and she lives for the child support. It drives me crazy cause it is spent on herself and not the kids. WHo can put themselves first before their children? I don't.

Thanks to all and everyone who responds:

Elizabeth
liznshan@aol.com

-- posted by BlueEyes27